David and Dan are on a mission to have a baby, and they want to take you with them on their journey. Originally written by David DeGiralamo as a series of keepsake diary entries for their unborn child to read one day and shared with family and friends as real-time pregnancy updates, And You Are Love
documents the true story of two gay men and their quest to create a baby through gestational surrogacy. DeGiralamo (the intended biologic father) captures the very highs and the very lows of their experience with roll-up-the-sleeves clarity and with a raw, gripping narrative that gives the work the gratifying feel of a page-turner. Along the way, he interweaves - in their words - the unique perspectives of his partner Dan, their immediate family members and the surrogate mother who is bearing their child.
And You Are Love is, at its core, an inspiring treatise on commitment, the importance of family and - above all - love. It is told in an unusually tender timbre from the central male voices in the story and grounded powerfully by the unsurpassed strength and enduring wisdom from the many women around them. Although "gay marriage" and "gay parenting" are among the most polarizing lightning-rod issues in American dialogue today, And You Are Love steers clear of the overtly political, focusing instead on the universality of the tale, the ups and downs of the pregnancy journey, and the instantly recognizable anxieties and exhilarations of first-time expectant parenthood. It is easily forgotten that the two parents-in-wait happen both to be men.
And yet it is in the simplicity of the storytelling and the capturing of the mundane that the story vocalizes its most resonant and most unabashed anthem - which is, simply, that being openly gay and being a parent are no longer mutually exclusive realities. And there never have been - nor ever will be - any patent protection rights on love.